Post by SnappedBones on Jul 6, 2016 14:47:12 GMT -5
You know... One thing I have realized over the years is this trend... This trend of people clicking in with other people, forming packs, and not letting anyone else in. They role plays are sectioned off, their ooc is sections off, and if you aren't someone they like? You're going to be in for a rough ride in any room they are in. It's like being in high school all over again but worse, because we're all supposed to be adults, capable of higher emotional and mental standards.
Yet I have seen SO many people afraid to join in on others rp. They're terrified of it. They say they 'don't want to intrude'. So I wanted to try and lay out some things for people that might help explain some 'RP Etiquette", allowing for both an informative run down, and hopefully a guide so that people might understand things a little better.
I will also list a bit of a guide on other things, simply because I feel that it might be beneficial, or at least informative.
1: It NEVER hurts to ask: Jumping in randomly could be seen as rude, this is true, and no one wants to be a rude Rudy. So, before jumping in blindly, ask first. Please, make sure to do this in PM, as it is both easier and less embarrassing for both parties should the request be refused. Most of the time you will find that a lot of people are more than happy, and wiling, to bring in a third and fourth character into the mix. Why? Because it is fun! Yes, some might not because it takes extra work, but in general, I don't know a single person in Frisco who is against a party style rp.
2: Clicks and Frisco: FRISCO HAS NONE!
No one person in this room only plays with one other person. We all play TOGETHER. Not a one of us has got a stick up our tail pipes about playing with anyone. If anything? The more we play with each other, the better our story lines can be, and the more involved our characters can grow. That means don't think someone won't want to rp with you. ^_^ It just means follow step one, and see where it goes! If you do feel like clicks are forming, or perhaps that you are being ignored, please contact the Frisco staff here on the boards. It will be addressed accordingly. Keep in mind too, RT allowing, many of the staff here would love to rp with others so don't hesitate to ask.
3: Role Play Relationships: This is of the romantic kind, be it sweet and smooth, or like swallowing charcoal tablets. The fact is? Characters WILL evolve relationships if they are played together enough. If you wanted to be in a relationship with a character but it didn't pan out? It isn't any different than in real life. You move on. If you really like the play style? PM or otherwise get in touch with the player and ask if they might be willing to accommodate. This can be anything from a lusciously tawdry love triangle, to a new set of characters made, and anything in between. Do not try to sabotage a role play for your own ends. Exemption: If all role players accept the idea of someone splitting their characters apart, and all three people therefore involved in said rp are in understanding and agree then that is perfect ok. Keep in mind any player may retract this invitation to said style of rp for any reason, and all three must then attempt a new ground base.
4: Cyber: The OTHER C Word. As legally aged, presumably healthy individuals, it isn't uncommon to enter a sexual scenario within role play. Now... Here is where things can get tricky. Like any sexual act, CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT! If the other person does not wish to enter that road with you, do not bully, badger or guilt them into it. Some people do not want to enter that sort of thing, and it is up to every one of us as players, to respect that will and choice from our partners, and adjust accordingly. Some people choose a 'fade to black' and let the general idea of it remain un-detailed, but occurred, to the act itself is registered without being written out. Some people truly enjoy Cyber, and will find great fun in the act itself, and like mature adults that is how it should be. One thing should be noted and discussed in pm before any cyber is Fetish. Many people who RP have mental disorders or a rough past, and some fetishes that may curl the toes of one person, can send another one into a hellacious ring of PTSD terror that takes hours to work out of. Remember, just like sex, Cyber is supposed to be enjoyable to BOTH parties. That means proper communication, understanding of each others likes and dislikes (common fetish etc), and respecting boundaries.
5: Character Death: This is NEVER forced. Ever. EVER. If a player is open to a shoot out with the potential outcome of the death of that character, then it is ok to proceed down that line, but if the other player is not and an attempted force kill is done? The rp will be voided. Why? Consent. Some of us are very bound to our characters. They are little parts of us, some of us even find the act of rping our favorite characters a method of de-stressing, and having someone force something on them is not kosher. Before the death of a character in a shoot out or other fight, we ask please that at least one room controller, moderator, or person of familiarity be in the room. This ensures all is done fair and proper, so no one is left with hurt feelings on either side.
6: Story Lines, Story Telling, Story Creation: Don't ever be afraid to use, make up, or tinker with something in Frisco. Want to be nasty and poison the well? Go for it! Just make sure everyone knows about it, so post it on the boards, otherwise you know it won't really count. Want to vandalize property? Why not, you rascal you! The pds in the room, and any place you create within your mind? They are props. Props are there to be USED. Don't feel as though you can't do something because it's a pd or something along those lines. Let your creativity flow! The world of RP is fantasy, it's imagination, and we highly encourage everyone to use those skills. Just remember to post it on the boards so those coming in to play are aware of the changes. Story Telling is a fantastic RP tool, but one seldom used any more, though as a tool it is one of the best for both plot and character development. I am ALWAYS happy to do this for people, so please, don't hesitate to ask.
7: Out Of Character Behavior: If you are new to a room, do not say to someone, 'Hello Person I Don't Know'. Chances are that you are entering their home room, and that behavior is quite rude, and even somewhat offensive. A simple hello and a smile is all that is needed. When asking questions or requesting information, if RP is occurring, please remember many PD's have a 'welcome' that includes the board link. Otherwise feel free to ask around in the room for one of the regular players, mods or admins. Keep in mind that OOC chatter? Fills up the counter, and if someone needs to go back for a RP post and a lot of OOC has occurred? It means that the player will not be able to retrieve the post. True, this is negated by scripting, but not everyone can do it or remembers to do so. (I myself am HORRIBLE at scripting. =_=)
8: Unsavory People: I don't care. There is always going to be someone, or someones, that people do not like. Be it due to abrasive personalities, abusive conversations, or general crass behavior? There is always someone who doesn't like someone else. Rather than leaving the room when such a person comes in, keep in mind that in the quick configure area, there is the ignore option. Please use it, I find that it helps to soothe irritated nerves, and not seeing the person within the room is always pleasant. I find this the more civilized and mature way to handle something, rather than leaving the room, as that tends to have a ripple effect that is not always pleasant for anyone involved.
Yet I have seen SO many people afraid to join in on others rp. They're terrified of it. They say they 'don't want to intrude'. So I wanted to try and lay out some things for people that might help explain some 'RP Etiquette", allowing for both an informative run down, and hopefully a guide so that people might understand things a little better.
I will also list a bit of a guide on other things, simply because I feel that it might be beneficial, or at least informative.
1: It NEVER hurts to ask: Jumping in randomly could be seen as rude, this is true, and no one wants to be a rude Rudy. So, before jumping in blindly, ask first. Please, make sure to do this in PM, as it is both easier and less embarrassing for both parties should the request be refused. Most of the time you will find that a lot of people are more than happy, and wiling, to bring in a third and fourth character into the mix. Why? Because it is fun! Yes, some might not because it takes extra work, but in general, I don't know a single person in Frisco who is against a party style rp.
2: Clicks and Frisco: FRISCO HAS NONE!
No one person in this room only plays with one other person. We all play TOGETHER. Not a one of us has got a stick up our tail pipes about playing with anyone. If anything? The more we play with each other, the better our story lines can be, and the more involved our characters can grow. That means don't think someone won't want to rp with you. ^_^ It just means follow step one, and see where it goes! If you do feel like clicks are forming, or perhaps that you are being ignored, please contact the Frisco staff here on the boards. It will be addressed accordingly. Keep in mind too, RT allowing, many of the staff here would love to rp with others so don't hesitate to ask.3: Role Play Relationships: This is of the romantic kind, be it sweet and smooth, or like swallowing charcoal tablets. The fact is? Characters WILL evolve relationships if they are played together enough. If you wanted to be in a relationship with a character but it didn't pan out? It isn't any different than in real life. You move on. If you really like the play style? PM or otherwise get in touch with the player and ask if they might be willing to accommodate. This can be anything from a lusciously tawdry love triangle, to a new set of characters made, and anything in between. Do not try to sabotage a role play for your own ends. Exemption: If all role players accept the idea of someone splitting their characters apart, and all three people therefore involved in said rp are in understanding and agree then that is perfect ok. Keep in mind any player may retract this invitation to said style of rp for any reason, and all three must then attempt a new ground base.
4: Cyber: The OTHER C Word. As legally aged, presumably healthy individuals, it isn't uncommon to enter a sexual scenario within role play. Now... Here is where things can get tricky. Like any sexual act, CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT! If the other person does not wish to enter that road with you, do not bully, badger or guilt them into it. Some people do not want to enter that sort of thing, and it is up to every one of us as players, to respect that will and choice from our partners, and adjust accordingly. Some people choose a 'fade to black' and let the general idea of it remain un-detailed, but occurred, to the act itself is registered without being written out. Some people truly enjoy Cyber, and will find great fun in the act itself, and like mature adults that is how it should be. One thing should be noted and discussed in pm before any cyber is Fetish. Many people who RP have mental disorders or a rough past, and some fetishes that may curl the toes of one person, can send another one into a hellacious ring of PTSD terror that takes hours to work out of. Remember, just like sex, Cyber is supposed to be enjoyable to BOTH parties. That means proper communication, understanding of each others likes and dislikes (common fetish etc), and respecting boundaries.
5: Character Death: This is NEVER forced. Ever. EVER. If a player is open to a shoot out with the potential outcome of the death of that character, then it is ok to proceed down that line, but if the other player is not and an attempted force kill is done? The rp will be voided. Why? Consent. Some of us are very bound to our characters. They are little parts of us, some of us even find the act of rping our favorite characters a method of de-stressing, and having someone force something on them is not kosher. Before the death of a character in a shoot out or other fight, we ask please that at least one room controller, moderator, or person of familiarity be in the room. This ensures all is done fair and proper, so no one is left with hurt feelings on either side.
6: Story Lines, Story Telling, Story Creation: Don't ever be afraid to use, make up, or tinker with something in Frisco. Want to be nasty and poison the well? Go for it! Just make sure everyone knows about it, so post it on the boards, otherwise you know it won't really count. Want to vandalize property? Why not, you rascal you! The pds in the room, and any place you create within your mind? They are props. Props are there to be USED. Don't feel as though you can't do something because it's a pd or something along those lines. Let your creativity flow! The world of RP is fantasy, it's imagination, and we highly encourage everyone to use those skills. Just remember to post it on the boards so those coming in to play are aware of the changes. Story Telling is a fantastic RP tool, but one seldom used any more, though as a tool it is one of the best for both plot and character development. I am ALWAYS happy to do this for people, so please, don't hesitate to ask.
7: Out Of Character Behavior: If you are new to a room, do not say to someone, 'Hello Person I Don't Know'. Chances are that you are entering their home room, and that behavior is quite rude, and even somewhat offensive. A simple hello and a smile is all that is needed. When asking questions or requesting information, if RP is occurring, please remember many PD's have a 'welcome' that includes the board link. Otherwise feel free to ask around in the room for one of the regular players, mods or admins. Keep in mind that OOC chatter? Fills up the counter, and if someone needs to go back for a RP post and a lot of OOC has occurred? It means that the player will not be able to retrieve the post. True, this is negated by scripting, but not everyone can do it or remembers to do so. (I myself am HORRIBLE at scripting. =_=)
8: Unsavory People: I don't care. There is always going to be someone, or someones, that people do not like. Be it due to abrasive personalities, abusive conversations, or general crass behavior? There is always someone who doesn't like someone else. Rather than leaving the room when such a person comes in, keep in mind that in the quick configure area, there is the ignore option. Please use it, I find that it helps to soothe irritated nerves, and not seeing the person within the room is always pleasant. I find this the more civilized and mature way to handle something, rather than leaving the room, as that tends to have a ripple effect that is not always pleasant for anyone involved.